We are the average of the five people we spend the maximum time with.

“We are the average of the five people we spend the maximum time with.”

“Birds of a feather flock together.”

“Cluck with the chickens or soar with the eagles.”

A lot of masters, mentors, coaches, gurus, motivators, authors, writers say this. You know what? It’s true!

The people you spend time with do influence you directly and indirectly.

If the people that you meet up with are people who look at life from a negative point of view or from a victim’s point of view, or keep complaining constantly, eventually you’re going to end up somewhat like them. I know this from personal experience. Close, long drawn encounters can actually pull you down unless you’re very careful. No matter how careful you are, over the long run, the negativity will wear you down, just like water sculpts rock.

Let me give you an example. Do any of the following statements resonate with you?

This is how things are and there is nothing I can do about it.

Only if the government were different I would have been able to do better.

If only my parents had not done this, or done that, I would have had better chances in life.

If my boss had not fired me, I would still be able to pay for my house.

If there hadn’t been a crisis, things would have been great.

I can’t do anything about what’s going on in my life.

Life is tough, that’s how it is, too bad this is where we are and we can’t do anything about it. Prices are too high.

Taxes are killing us.

All politicians are corrupt.

I can work hard all I want but there is no money today so I might as well not do anything.

…and the list goes on….

If you’re honest with yourself, you have at times said or repeated the very same things. Well, the more you expose yourself to this kind of situation, the more you repeat these beliefs and statements and stay around those who do, the tougher it will be for you to take charge of your life.

We are in an ocean of energy, there is a constant exchange and we are being influenced as we are influencing others.

If you really want to get ahead in life, if you really want to make something worthwhile out of your life, you must protect your surroundings, you must jealously guard yourself, discerning carefully and align into your inner circle of influence only those people who encourage you to do better, to progress further, to grow more, to find your answers, to do more, to be proactive instead of simply sitting and wasting time in gossip, small talk, whining and complaining, senseless chit-chat and a general commiseration of how bad the times are and nostalgia about the good old days.

You can have the good present days, you can have the good future days, you can have the good all and forever days, if you so decide, and more.

To do so, you will have to relinquish relationships, friendships, acquaintances, everybody and anybody who is addicted to negativity, to whining and complaining, to resignation, to days, months. years of not doing anything with the excuse that nothing can be done, that things are what they are, to reality.

You have to, instead, cultivate those relationships, those friendships, those acquaintances, that empower you, that pull you up, that support you, that push you to rise, that ask more of you, that make you ask more of yourself.

You have to ensure that you spend the maximum of your time with people, with ideas, with the discussions, with discourses, with books, with programs that feed you.

You have to ensure that you spend the minimum of your time with the rest of the world.

This is not to say that your shun people, or that you don’t have fun watching the idiot box, or that you don’t read a simple novel that doesn’t require a lot of your grey cells to function at their optimum.

It just means that you make a conscious decision to do more of what serves you and less of what does not.

It’s as simple as that.

When I heard this, my first thought was, “This is really logical but how many people do I know personally who are very successful in their field and how can I go and spend time with them?” Believe me, it pains me to say that there weren’t many. I was floating in a sea of average, mediocre thinking and daily life situations.

So I looked around and asked myself, “How do I get to spend the maximum of my time with 5 great souls?”

The answer?

Start by picking the minds of the great Masters, they have left a wealth of written information, go read, spend time with them, learn, upgrade your human software, this will also upgrade your hardware and slowly and steadily you will attract towards you the living Circle of Life Masters.

So, If you haven’t got the possibility of actually hanging around wonderful, successful, happy, generous, empowering and positive people, start somewhere, start where you are, start with your personal growth and evolution. Start by becoming one!

Make your choices and watch the magic unfold.

Blessings!